To have eternal happiness in Heaven, a human person must die in the state of grace. The state of grace always includes the theological virtues of love, faith, and hope. So we can say that the state of grace is truly the state of loving God and neighbor. Whoever dies in the state of grace, will have eternal life in Heaven; whoever does not, will not.
Some adults are in the state of grace, and other adults are not in the state of grace. Some are not in the state of grace because they never entered that state by a baptism of water, or desire, or blood. Others were once in the state of grace, but fell away from it because of unrepented actual mortal sin.
Now the offer of salvation from God is universal. All human persons are offered salvation in Christ, in a way that is concrete and attainable despite the difficult circumstances of their lives. But what I would like to point out in this post is something almost inexplicable: Some people do not want to be in the state of grace.
For the state of grace requires a certain humility, to love God above all things, and to love your neighbor as yourself. The state of grace requires sometimes putting others first, requires self-denial, requires rejecting certain sinful pleasures in this life. The state of grace requires you to live in a certain way, or to change your life to live in accord with that grace. And some people have decided, in a fully deliberate way, that they do not want to live in that way. They do not want to be humble, to admit when they have sinned or have done wrong toward others. They wish to be selfish and arrogant and to indulge in all the pleasures of this life. They are not willing to live a life of love of others.
For the most part, they do not realize that this choice implies a rejection of Heaven — that place of eternal love of God and others, that place of eternal humility and chastity. They do not realize that this choice implies that they have chosen Hell as their final destination. But nevertheless, it was a choice within their power to make, and they chose the path to Hell, instead of the path to Heaven.
God offers eternal happiness to everyone. Some people do not want eternal happiness, because the path to that happiness is one of humility, self-denial, and love of God and others.
See my booklet: Heaven, Hell, Purgatory, and Limbo
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